Hi, I have three kids, ages 30 down to 17 (high school senior). I am a product of a mediocre-at-best public school. My husband went to a good (and tracked) public school.
We started our kids in a Quaker school (what I learned there–Quakers are socialist–by their own admission). We didn’t stay long.
We moved to public school, in a “good” suburban district, supposedly one of the top in the state (in PA that isn’t saying a lot). Mediocre. Large class sizes, all the moneys go to the Special Ed end of the spectrum. I was on the district superintendent’s Parent Advisory Council (one parent from each of the schools in the district), and gifted/special ed came up at one point. A parent asked what rights the “regular” student had, and the superintendent responded “none.”
The public school was mediocre. Didn’t challenge the smart kids. So off to a private prep school we went. It was good for our older son, our daughter would have been better off staying in public school, as she had a nice group of friends there and moving in ninth grade is a tough time. She was self-motivated and would have done well no matter where she was.
Our youngest started in public school, and we switched him to the same prep school as his siblings in fifth grade (they were then out of, or nearly out of, college.)
At that point the private school was not worth the money. The school, while always liberal, had become extreme. At one point I wanted to home school, and my husband said that was crazy, due to the socialization aspect. But two years later, he suggested we home school. (At that point our son was in tenth grade and unmotivated. Not a good candidate for home schooling.) The school has gone way whacko crazy. The teachers are blatant leftists (crying in the classroom the day after the election, suggesting that Trump would create internment camps for gays, etc.) The kids are brainwashed with a leftist ideology. I was at a school meeting where high schoolers made a presentation. It made me sick to hear the total brainwashing–like mind-numbed robots. My son and his conservative friends are demeaned and some teachers mark them down etc. (There are also excellent teachers, but not this younger crop that has come in over the last 5 or so years.)
So that’s my experience. Here’s my opinion. If I had it to do over, I’d home school. These days there are so many homeschoolers that I don’t think socialization is a problem. Just as important, you’ll share some classes with likeminded parents who are committed to their kids’ education.
It will cost more, since you’ll still be paying taxes, and buying books, paying for camps, tutors, etc., although some states require the schools to provide books, I think. Some may allow homeschoolers to do sports/band with the public schools. Those are things you need to check out. Whether homeschooling is more or less expensive than private school depends on how much you/your wife can earn. If the homeschooling parent can make substantially more than the cost of the private school, then maybe it’s to your advantage to send to private school, since you’ll make more than that. That assumes you can find a suitable private school.
Of course, if you intend to have more kids, that’s a different story.
There are plenty of opportunities to make friends outside of school. There’s sports, after-school programs. Our local community college has programs for home-schoolers. I think it’s a huge advantage to home school if you have bright kids. Especially if they are really bright in one area, like math. They can move much faster, although you may end up paying for tutors.
The one thing I’ve noticed with people who homeschooled is that they tended to do really well with English, etc., if the kids were readers, the parents were readers, etc. But they tended to let the subjects they didn’t like (math/science) slide and did the minimum there. Just something to be aware of.
Hope that helps. Good luck!
Statistics: Posted by anita — Thu Feb 09, 2017 1:15 pm